All about being a woman

I share Almighty's bounty to bring a new life in this world..
A post for all the women to feel proud for who we are and why are we sent in this world. Is  man alone not enough to rule the world... Woman is the one who carries forward this mankind. Going through all the internal pains of carrying a baby is not a man's affair. The patience, the kindness a woman can carry man cannot.
 Maa, this word in it self carries a whole  world.. it's not merely a relation but a feeling a gesture on a whole. It stands above all the relations... And a mother lives this relation above all her wishes, desires pains and what not...
This sense of being special becomes more precious when one realize how God has chosen us to share his miracle of giving life to a human... We are a medium to hold that very special creature. If one notice how much intrestingly our body specially the pelvic region is designed to hold, protect and carry a baby for nine months safely..
Then God could have fed the baby on anything but then his miracle is witnessed again in the form of feed a mother provides to the new born which is irreplaceable by any scientific salts formulated till date. (fabe ayye alae rabbikuma tukazziban... Allah ki kon konsi nematien tum jhutlaoge).
We the woman are precious. We are no where the weaker sect infact we are specially blessed one..
Ponder on the fact and feel special...
A beautiful hadees says- There lies Jannat beneath your mothers feet.

Love marraiges versus arrange marraiges..

This is a famous myth or fact that love marraiges does not run smoothly... And being of this century took it as a bakwaas.. bole to rubbish its just that people around or say society has this myth. But eventually i tried to analyse the fact if that is so how and why things fail to work out and vice versa.
This is quite strange at times how could a person just go and sleep with any guy or girl whom he or she has not known,... thanks to mobile phones and internet no one is a stranger except our own family members because we get to spend least tym with them because we don't have enough time to spare after all our chats. So coming back to the core and the ingredients missing in the recipes. Accordingly a love marraige should go on smoothly as people are well aware of each other. BUT arrange marraiges are more healthy and fruitful because as you are going to meet a stranger or say a person least known to you. to namak(salt) thoda zada hogaya love mein and missed in arrange that is fulfilled with time in the course of knowing each other. Bole to after marrying a person you have always known and seemed perfect according to you there is nothing may be least things left to be known about each other and expectations rise which looses the charisma of the bond and when not coming up to the expectations things start getting worst.
whereas arrange marraige brings with it a blank canvas to draw the picture you want the person to draw for you and like wise expectations are least except hopes to be there....
No conclusions to make,,, but an inference to draw things look good the way they are made.... Almighty has sent each one us in a pair. Respect your Spouse even he or she is not up to you but at the end is a dignified person who is also alone if you aren't there...

Selfdom seized..

Its just the way u cover ur identity...

In a conversation with learned scholars, i got trapped in an argument amongst them on veiling their hair and covering their head. I simply enjoyed that hot debate by sitting quietly as I didn't really carry any religious evidences to quote my statement.In that conversation an intellectual candidate simply quoted that this has became a style statement of females. I took a minute to think M i somewhere lacking behind following certain fashion? but the very next minute, that thought just flew away, because for that fashion to be followed one needs patience. And I am sorry to myself for not following. The colloquy continued with no optimistic end.
The same evening I was just getting ready for a party, putting up the make up, getting a little frustrated with this tedious task.My thought process restarted and started questioning me is putting make up required for every party or any happy gathering but when in remorse a simple dress with nothing artificially put on the face is more then enough actually.. The answer was instant.. Obviously! One has to look good, Dress well(look the prettiest in the gathering) and so on for a party. Conscience replied. Why is that make up is required.. Putting on one base then the other then pinky cheeks,, with rosy lips.. and i started smiling thinking the same....  where in for any mournful affair nothing at all looks necessary.In corollary, the ultimate truth is we just cover our true selves in order to present a better side of us. 
But the way we cover ourself run in counter to each individual.. One likes to cover his/her lines or curves with varied beauty products. But few opt to envelop them self by using no artificiality. So why is there a debate when women want to bind their real identities. Some may do that by putting layers of foundation bases where as the other may just prefer to put a piece of cloth. This thought just left a smile on my face thinking that few countries even like to debate on veiling and covering of women in their parliaments. I guess they are free enough to ponder on the dressing of the covered women of their country... then the ones who put on less clothes ;)
There is no religion on this planet who preaches one to be undraped.Then Why is covering oneself is an offense. Why are women facing an antisocial behavior just because they prefer to cover  their true self under a piece of cloth.. It is your attire that make men tempt for you and attempt a certain activity.. And it is your attire that make men respct for you and lift their eyes with dignity for you...

Your existence is because of her.

"Don't make your mother feel guilty for the pain she took for you"

Loud roars of laughter were coming while i was in the kitchen preparing coffee for the ones sitting in and giggiling. I was in speed as i wanted to join the conversation too. While i put up the pan filled with milk on the stove i thought to peep in and listen to jokes that were cracked. My 7 year old nephew was playing with a doll, strange for a boy to do so, this could have passed unnoticed if someone could not have jokingly juxtaposed the posture of the doll to the victim of delhi rape case. And once again on this simile the group of 'MEN' laughed. But at that moment something pinched in my heart. I went back to prepare coffee and joined in with everyone. A happy time passed by and its time for everyone to get in their sleeping couches.
It was midnight, although being tired for the whole day i wasn't sleepy and i was feeling that pinch again which was joke few moments before.My thought process accelerated and i started imagining (God Forbid) if a group of 6 men just try to catch hold of me and impose them on me. Will I be resistable to any of them? Is one man enough to fight against 6? If any of my parent or the one in my blood relation will be able to help me out at that very instance? These and many questions mugged up my mind and i started feeling breathless and goose bumps all over me.
I reimagined that joke when everyone laughed. The typical Male chauvinist society have the same constitution of mind, at times they may be emotional but that too only for the one they may genuinely respect, love or have feelings for their blood relations. Rest is just vain. He can fantasize every second woman encountered.The question that came next was Is the pain suffered by a mother in those nine months of transforming a fetus into a baby and all the years that were observed by her turning him to a man. And when turning old enough  he feels pride in to stark the being of another effeminate. Are men so rapacious that they have forgotten all the generosity?
Females are termed as weaker sex. But do people really understand the real definition of weaker sex in this context. As far as i have surveyed the prominent definition of weaker sex is freedom for exploitation, exploitation by father by not letting their daughters move out the way their son could, exploitation by a husband for being a maid to him, for being a toy to him in bed. Exploitation by male colleagues to look at their female counterparts as tranquilizers. Not enough with this there are uncountable humilations, harassment a girl faces far before then  her physical maturity. Is she sent on earth to fulfill the manly desires.
  This is for all men from all ages, races, tribes, communities you are made strong to protect the one's who are less stronger. Your heavy shoulders signify to enclose the one with lighter shoulders and protect. The famous observation that a girl likes or adores a boy who has heavy built, the reason is simple so that he may protect her from all storms of this world rather than make her weak from the fear of being forced physically. Someday or the other your mother, sister, wife could have felt that harrasment and sometimes or the other you would have also commented on someone else.
Give a thought to your being and make this world a healthier and fearless place to live in.

Wisdom Unvieled: a puzzled match

Wisdom Unvieled: a puzzled match: Love v/s Infatuation He smiled at me whenever I pass by his sight. He use to come early from his tution because he knew at this tim...

a puzzled match

Love v/s Infatuation

He smiled at me whenever I pass by his sight. He use to come early from his tution because he knew at this time I would come on terrace.

 This was a special feeling for an 8^th standard girl because somewhere or the other she was liking the attention given to her. Things just pass by the same way for few weeks, the attention was given more and likely it was enjoyed more. This scenario  was a direct  effect for the revolution in the hormones in either cases. The liberation of oxytocin here makes one feel  thrilled, but not happy, wanting to trust, yet suspicious. And the poor teenager terms it as love and that too there first love. That girl thought the same too, but in a time span of 4 months she felt that was not it, that she wants. so her gestures started changing  towards the guy, unknowingly about the feelings the guy may have. When the chemical flood dries up, the relationship either moves into a loving romantic one or there is disillusionment, and the relationship ends.

Gone by the books several love quotes you get to read, hear lot of stuff which we generally regard as philosophical is termed love officially. But how could it be so.. just imagine a couple who is arrange married just not knowing each other they purposely force themselves to love each other  be it in bed or by heart. The love that may be imposed or you are left for no other choice to choose from. Certainly makes you feel the need of acceptance(in Indian context). I guess when the feeling when Acceptance is labeling someone as "okay" and having no particular desire to change them. Who they are is perfectly fine with you. You pose no condition on whether you will love them or not.

 A famous fun quote reflects a meaning  no love before 20. I perhaps take it as till then learn from others mistake before making a blunder yourself :P but not making it a bore for you to read just wanna say do not play with others feelings get to know what your heart says and be clear with your outlook….

Till then just flirt till you get the right one…

P.S. applicable for both guys and girls :P

Array of phases yet a single face

Array of phases yet a single face….

Exactly Phase and Face are quite similar to pronounce perhaps are different in varied contexts…

Before you get into my shoe to look forth with my vision, just a few situations to imagine your persona is in different groups.. in simple terms bole to just read next few lines and envision yourself in those state of affairs (consider age group 16+ to 25).

Standing before a dignitary and With a group of friends.

With parents.

With some kids.

Having passed school or just say looking at people just preceding your age group.

Going  for an interview or going for a date.

Reading a course book or reading a novel..

Looking at someone else girlfriend/boyfriend and someone else looks at yours… :P

No! No! No!!!! don’t stop reading …

 I know you’re a bit confused to get what is said..

 Look from the above situations, just see how many different roles a person plays when stuck in the above mentioned few situations… We are amazing actors and undoubtfully the best one from the ones play reel roles on the screen. In different situations we certainly react the way our mind counters or perhaps how we inhibit..

 Just imagine the situation when you get allured to other persons girlfriend or boyfriend (ab ye mat sochna k nahi I am true to my love :P I know people are… but I just said…”Just Allured”) and when someone looks at your girlfriend or boyfriend :P …. simple different phases but with the same face!!!!

 Ok another situation….

 Just imagine your deen talking to a student and talking to one of his friends… talking to his friend he may say yaar bada hectic hai… on the other hand he may somewhere declare the use of word yaar as an abuse or ill mannered…

To hamari baat ka saar ye he ki…(the conclusion to the above said is) we are combination of multiple personalities engrossing within us a variety of characters that become certainly active when trigerred.. so just pick up the best character and apply it to every varied circumstance and drop the anxieties that may be caused due to multiple situations with multiple handling flavors. Just introspect and feel the precious person in you and lead a peaceful being….